Imagine a tool that combines the wisdom of astrology, the I Ching, the Kabbalah, chakras, and quantum physics—all rolled into one system designed to help you better understand yourself.

That’s what Human Design offers, a self-discovery map that reveals your unique strengths, talents, and potential, so you can live more aligned with your true nature. It’s a bit like finding the instruction manual to your soul!

When I first stumbled upon Human Design in 2019, I was already knee-deep in exploring self-development tools. I’ll admit, I was sceptical.

How could something based on my birthdate, time, and location possibly hold the key to deep truths about who I am? But the more I explored, read, and connected with professionals in the field, the more I realised its accuracy and depth. And now, I’m here to share this transformative tool with you.

What Is Human Design?

Human Design is a self-knowledge system discovered in 1987 by Ra Uru Hu during a mystical experience on the island of Ibiza. According to him, the information was transmitted over eight days by a “Voice” that revealed the foundations of this system.

At its core, Human Design gives you a detailed map of your unique energy configuration, based on your birth information. It’s like having a personalised guide to help you understand how to live in alignment with your authentic self, improving both your well-being and success.

The Key Elements of Human Design

Human Design is made up of several components that create a complete picture of your energetic essence:

The Centres: Your Energy Hubs

Imagine your body as a city with nine main districts, each serving a different function. These are your energy centres in Human Design. They can be:

• Defined (consistently energised)
• Undefined (open to external influences)

Understanding whether your centres are defined or undefined helps you become more aware of your strengths and vulnerabilities, allowing you to navigate life with greater self-awareness.

The Types: Your Fundamental Energy Nature

Human Design categorises us into five main types, each with its own strategy for interacting with the world:

1. Manifestors: (9% of the population) Initiators who make things happen. They’re naturally independent and need to inform others of their actions to reduce resistance.
2. Generators: (37%) – Builders who thrive when responding to external cues. They have sustained energy for long-term projects and follow their intuition to know what’s right for them.
3. Manifesting Generator (33%) – A mix of both Manifestors and Generators, they are productive multitaskers who need to manage their energy carefully to avoid burnout.
4. Projectors (20%) – Natural guides here to manage and direct others. Their energy isn’t sustained, so they need to wait for invitations to avoid exhaustion.
5. Reflectors (1%) – Mirrors of society, Reflectors reflect the health and well-being of their environment. They need to wait a full lunar cycle before making big decisions.

Profiles: Your Role in Life

Your Profile is represented by a combination of two numbers (from 1 to 6), giving insight into how you behave in the world, the roles you adopt, and how you approach relationships and opportunities.

Channels and Gates: Your Pathways to Potential

These elements reveal your innate talents and gifts, helping you better understand what makes you unique and how you can leverage your strengths.

How Human Design Impacts Your Life

Knowing your Human Design can significantly enhance both your personal and professional life:

• Improved Relationships: By understanding your design and that of your loved ones, you can foster more empathy and communication. Learning to honour different energy types can lead to greater harmony and respect in relationships.
• Increased Well-being: When you live according to your design, you naturally reduce stress and improve your overall sense of well-being. It’s about finally giving yourself permission to be who you are, without forcing yourself into boxes that don’t fit.
• Conscious Parenting: For parents, Human Design is an invaluable tool to understand your child’s unique energy and nurture their innate talents. It allows you to tailor your parenting style to better support their natural gifts.
• Transforming Your Career Through Human Design: Human Design doesn’t just change your personal life; it can profoundly impact your professional path too:
• Better Decision-Making: By understanding your inner authority, you can make more aligned decisions in your career. For example, if you have emotional authority, you’ll learn to avoid making snap decisions and instead wait for emotional clarity.

Career Alignment

Your type and profile can guide you toward careers that suit your energy. Projectors, for instance, often excel in roles that allow them to guide others, while Generators thrive in positions that let them respond to challenges and use their sustainable energy.

Optimised Work Environment

Knowing your defined and undefined centres can help you create a workspace that supports your energy. For example, if you have an undefined mind centre, a quiet environment may help you avoid mental overwhelm.

My Personal Journey with Human Design

When I first discovered Human Design, aspects of my life that felt confusing or frustrating suddenly made sense. I realised my energy was designed for action and creation, but that didn’t mean I needed to constantly force things to happen. I learned to embrace my strategy of responding to opportunities rather than initiating everything. This has significantly reduced my stress and allowed me to go with the flow.

For the first time, I also felt validated in my multiple interests and passions. Instead of questioning if it was “normal” to have so many diverse interests, I learned that it’s part of my nature—and my purpose is fulfilled when I dive into things that truly light me up.

One of the most liberating discoveries was understanding my emotional authority. For years, I struggled with decision-making, feeling like I should be able to make instant choices. But every time I made a quick decision or followed someone else’s lead, it backfired. Learning that I need time to process my emotions before making major decisions has been a game-changer. Now, I allow myself the space to connect with my higher self before acting, leading to far more aligned and satisfying outcomes.

Ready to Explore Your Design?

Human Design offers a powerful and unique perspective for personal and professional development. By giving us a personalised “user manual,” it helps us better understand our strengths, challenges, and how to navigate life in a way that feels authentic.

I invite you to explore Human Design for yourself. Generate your chart, learn about your Type and Authority, and start experimenting with living in alignment with your design. You might be surprised by how this tool can transform your life, leading to greater authenticity, success, and a sense of fulfilment in both your personal and professional journey.

Generate Your Chart

Useful Resources for Further Exploration

Books:

• Human Design: The Definitive Book of Human Design, The Science of Differentiation by Ra Uru Hu >>>>
• Human Design: Discover the Person You Were Born to Be by Chetan Parkyn >> 
• The Human Design Workbook: A Step by Step Guide to Understanding Your Own Chart and How it Can Transform Your Life by y Karen Curry Parker >>>>

Websites for free Human Design charts:
MyBodyGraph:  (https://www.mybodygraph.com)

“The law of attraction isn’t working for me” 

“Why my manifesting is taking so long?”

“Manifesting isn’t real, it’s just wishful thinking”

Those are three phrases I often hear when I talk about The Law of Attraction and manifesting with people. To be honest, I dislike using the word “manifesting” and the term “Law of Attraction” because they sound a bit icky to me too. It makes me feel like achieving your goals or wanting a better life is something mystical, mysterious and unattainable or destined for certain kind of people only. 

Manifesting is based on a function in your brain,  not something exclusive for intuitive or psychic people, it works equally for everybody because it is enabled by the Reticular Activation System (RAS) which is the part of your brain that filters information based on your belief system as a guide to determine what’s important for you and what’s not, influencing what you focus on and impacting your behaviours and actions.

I am a financial analyst with an accounting background, believe me when I said I have analysed every aspect of manifesting thoroughly and have an explanation for each part of it. 

When you are aware that your brain is the one responsible to do the manifesting job, anything becomes a possibility, there’s no secret other than knowing exactly what you want and living in alignment.

I can’t make manifesting work for me, help

How many times you’ve followed every advice that you’ve heard and what you wanted to manifest didn’t happen. Maybe you’ve only had luck manifesting small items or a parking space in a busy car park but not the “bigger things” and the printed version of your “Universe cheque” is already yellow, if you still have it, of course, but there are no signs of the amount you wrote down there.

**** Maybe just add up all the money you received since you wrote it down and you’ll be surprise that you actually had that money, not in one chunk as you expected… (I know I did manifest that money- over 3 years, but I did!) ***

You manifest from possibility not reality

Let me give you an example: You want to manifest a trip to Bora Bora with your partner. 

Most people will look at their monthly expenses and their bank account and will say “this is impossible, there’s no way I’ll ever go to Bora Bora” but not you, because you’ve learnt that everything in this life is possible and you manifest from possibilities not from reality. So you still write this down as something to manifest.

The first step is to know how much that trip will cost, so you go online or check with a travel agent, and get a quote. You already know that anything you want is possible so you don’t  feel discouraged when you see the amount and it doesn’t agree with your current situation but you continue, we are manifesting here! 

Knowing how much money it will cost turns a wishful thought into something tangible, real and now you can start brainstorming a plan (please don’t make excuses as we usually do) on ways  you can make this trip happen for you. 

If you are woo woo, here you are sending the right signals to the universe letting it know that you are serious and ready for this. The exact how maybe is not clear yet but you made a start and you are open to receive. 

Moving on, you start listing some of those possibilities,  at least the most obvious ones:

• Win the trip
• Win the money
• Start saving for the trip: Start a new revenue stream, sell some of unused stuff that are in good condition, etc

Your job is to be opened to take every opportunity that comes your way. 

Still nothing?

So it’s been a couple of months already but the trip is nowhere to be seen. You start feeling discouraged. 

“I did everything to manifest this trip but something seem not to be right. I wish upon a star,  and meditated an hour a day to win this trip. I know it works equally for everybody but it is not working for me.. I followed all the tricks I found online, I deeply wished and hoped, I felt it like it was true, I put it in my vision board, I have a picture of the hotel in Bora Bora as a screensaver, I changed all my passwords to itraveltoborabora, I felt the breeze on my face, I promise! I was close to wear my beach dresses every day and to put sand in my living room.

I even met  the universe half way and start saving for the trip,  participated in every competition to win it but I had to spend the money on something unexpected and I didn’t even come close to be the winner. Law of attraction, manifesting my a***, it doesn’t work for me!“

Okay, Okay. Let’s go bit by bit

First, I will never ask anybody to meditate for that long seriously, especially if you are a mum – I consider myself lucky if I can have a shower without being interrupted –  kudos if you’ve got the time but that doesn’t work for me. I meditate to relax and keep in the flow, I implement mindfulness meditation everywhere I can, and use custom-made meditation and hypnosis audios.

Start simple: search YouTube for nice relaxation meditations, I like Brian Weiss or use an app like Insight Timer, that was suggested by intuitive coach Kristin Quattlebaum from KQ Coaching in our Facebook Group.

You did everything right! But… nothing

We all have been there! You did everything right but if the trip hasn’t happened then you have to dig a bit deeper. Most people don’t do it because it is sometimes painful to face those demons, not so much when it comes to manifesting a trip but some other stuff. If it becomes too painful, you may want to contact someone to help you through this. 

If you’re going through hell, keep going.”

– Winston Churchill

Going all in

Let’s see, ask yourself why, digging deeper either by using a mindset tool like journaling or working with a coach you discover that you have I have a fear of flying on a plane. A fear deep inside you,  embedded in your subconscious mind that you probably forgot that it was there or may not even know about it. Like my fear to have shells in my house.

The thing is that until you clear that “fear”, it  will no matter how many times you wish to go to Bora Bora, it won’t happen.  There will be always an excuse to spend the money you saved  and you won’t be the winner of the trip because your subconscious programming, that fear of flying, will sabotage all your attempts to accomplish that goal.  

Remove Obstacles

Clear fear or limiting belief  

Sometimes it is more than one limiting belief but only by clearing the more obvious one you can discover the other ones but you’ll see a big progress when you start with the first one. 

I had to work through and clear traumatic events in my life in order to progress, some other times I had to face my inner critic and learning to listen to her with attention and no judgement. 

Remove as many obstacles as possible to bring you closer to that goal and you’ll see that you’ll get what you ask for. You may win it, get pay rise or a bonus at work, have an awesome idea and start making money, a friend gifting it to you, etc. Everything is a possibility.

Everything that happens in your life serves a purpose, be patient and kind to yourself.

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A chat with transformational coach Jennifer Willemsen.

If you want to change your life, you may want to check what habits and behaviours that are creating your current reality and modify them to create new results.

In this interview, Jennifer Willemsen, from our team, explains why it is sometimes difficult to get a different result when we rely on our willpower or on our conscious mind and what to do instead.

We also talk about how alternative therapists change behaviours from the root itself and identify what are the beliefs that hold people back and how emotional triggers are a blessing in disguise because they help us evolve, grow and heal from within.

Transcription

Jennifer: I am an intuitive life coach. And I also coach entrepreneurs. And besides that, I have my own startup. But with the coaching,  I have the ability to clear people’s limiting beliefs on a subconscious level and I can integrate new truths that is propelling them forward. And I also share messages from their true selves. So I act like a channeler or messenger about what their real selves wants me to share with them at that moment in their life. So that’s how we work through different areas that where they have blockages or that are holding them back.

Claudia: So, how important is to put things on a surface level so we can see and work through them?

Jennifer: I can’t stress enough how important that is because so we have our conscious mind, right? and our subconscious mind.  Our conscious mind is five percent or less of who we are and how we operate. And so all our programming, to say like that, it’s almost like a computer game and all the programming language, our subconscious minds, actually, ninety five percent. So that’s almost everything that we are in and where are we coming from. I used to be a psychologist and when most therapies you are working on a conscious level, but it’s like you looking at the top of the iceberg and just looking at that and working with the ice sculpture. Well, everything is below sea level. Below the water. So, underneath the water. So, you know, if you want to make changes, it’s really hard work, if you’re going to change the computer game, if you are in a computer game, right? You want to you need to go back to the coding language and rewind your limiting beliefs, rewrite the programming language. And that’s how you create a new computer game. That’s how you redesign your own reality.

Claudia: You can read all the books and you can do all the online programs. But I think it’s important to work with a therapist

Jennifer: Two things I want to say about that. I used to read every book about, for example, the Law of Attraction and then I went to The Secret. I meditated for eight years. I went to thousands of seminars on personal development and business growth. But I still realize like making slow progress. And I felt like something deeper within me, like something from it, from like when it was zero or like two or three, you know, something from a very long time ago that was holding me back. And I need to dig really, really deep. And I learned it like in those. We talk about the programming language is the biggest chunk of that comes from our age of zero and seven. So it’s really difficult to get there with your conscious mind. You know that you can get far a bit with like meditation, hypnosis or do it yourself, but you really want to have someone who can easily tune in on you and say, you know, this is it.

Though, where most therapists go on emotional level and try to work with that, what I do and maybe also other alternative coaches,  we go deeper on the energetic level and we create shifts there and then automatically because the energetic body is a driving source behind our physical, spiritual, emotional body and so many more bodies that I don’t know the existence of. You go straight to the root and then it’s so incredibly profound and it doesn’t require you to cry it all out. It just shifts to an identity and you will immediately notice that it changes your behaviour because their roots have changed.

Triggers

Claudia:  We [Human beings] are in constant evolution. How triggers help us go that extra step up?

Well, you know, remember we talked about ego and indifferent to ego versus our true selves. And so ego wants us to stay small and comfortable and not do anything crazy. And these that cause of their anxiety, insecurity and fear and our true self is like sees our bigger picture of our life, knows why we came here and wants us to step into our greatness and like, try. You know. But most people, their ego is like so dominantly in their presence or active in them that their true self. That’s why many people say higher self because it’s almost like your higher self stepped away from you, because there’s almost no space for it, because ego is all around you. Is that truth within you? And so ego is almost like if you look at it as in the sense of evolution, it’s almost a self, because every time your ego gets triggered, it’s a mirror for where you need healing on the inside, though. And when I start to realize that, I find it so more empowering because I used to get really anxious when I felt anxiety or I used to get really like talking myself lower and lower when I guess when I got like, negative self-talk. But now I’m like, wait a minute, this is ego. What is my trigger and what is my weak spot? And so that creates the opportunity to break, to evolve and grow and heal from that space.

Working with a coach

Claudia: If a tennis player wants to become the best tennis player, he hires a coach. In car raising, in any sport, they hire a coach. So if you want to become better, and the fact that we have the internet, it makes it easier to get the right person to work with the right person, someone that you feel good and close. Not everyone is for everybody.

Jennifer: It’s hard to see everything about your own life. If you are having that from the inside perspective of you, you know, if you are in it and someone looks at it from the outside perspective, you can gain so much clarity in such a short amount of time. You don’t have to do it all alone. People who can help me so quickly and it can be so nice to know that one’s for you and supporting you and having that nourishing, loving energy of another human being that has your best interest in her heart. Yeah, I think that’s really a gift for yourself.

Work with Jennifer

You can find Jennifer in our wonderful directory of life, transformational and intuitive coaches. You can book a 15-minute online discovery call to find out how she can help you move forward with your business and clear limiting beliefs that are hindering your growth right now and share intuitive business guidance that is coming through for you.

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Dream big, this is your life, own your power.

First you need to claim your power back. You are too much into being you, the way you have always be, the way that is no longer making you happy.

If you want to reach your next level, first you need to step out of your comfort zone.

Back in 2014 I had the idea to start an online business for multiple reasons. First of all, a personal one, to have flexibility in my work hours and second of all, because I had this business idea and I wanted to pursue it, it was bigger than me.  I spent a whole year working on a logo (whhyyyyy????) until my computer broke.

I wasted another year thinking: how is it going to work? I taught myself website creation. It was a wedding planner website. I love planning and budgeting, I love websites, I love weddings.

I’m grateful I found Business Jump and helped me create find something aligned with me and my purpose, they helped me create the first version of this website, they taught me all about an online business and started this new chapter in my life.

Starting a businessreminded me:  It’s all mindset

I needed a mindset shift, my current mindset gave me my current life, but I wanted to do something different I wanted to be my own boss.

Mindset takes time

Let’s start from the beginning

I always believed in the power of the mind. My grandfather introduced me to that fact that we only use 10% of our brains. Competitive as I am, I said I’m going to use at least 80% of it! But  I started wondering where the other 90% was and what powers I would have it I used it all.

I think I was 6 but I don’t really remember, I could’ve been 10. He left this world when I was 13 but he is still a massive influence in my life. He announced his dead on my 13^th birthday, reason my subconscious mind registered a fear of the number 13, a fear I have recently overcome.  I couldn’t do anything if I saw the number 13, hang up a 13 minute long phone call, go out at 13:00, rent the apartment 13, sit in the allocated seat 13 in the movie theatre, even if it was allocated to me. Once I offered a choc top (and revealed myself as a crazy person) in the movies just to swap sits with someone. I think they were more scared of me than they wanted the choc top! 

My grandfather introduced me to all this world of woo woo. I still have the The Silva Mind Control Method book he gave me, with a young picture of me in it that I used as a bookmark.

PS: Papapa, you may already know this, we actually use 100% of our brains, 90% are made up of subconscious programming and nope, I can’t move inanimate objects as I initially thought if I use 100% of my brain, or bring the TV remote control closer to me as I once intended and you laugh, but in 2020 I can turn on the tv by saying “Ok google, turn the tv on”, well, theoretically, if I ever set up that thing correctly.  But my voice turns on the radio, now called Spotify, and Siri or Google whoever is closer, can make calls for me or take notes. You know I always wanted to do this!  I feel accomplished.

When I got older I started reading Deepak Chopra and Wayne Dyer books, I was a recurrent visitor of the “self-help” aisle in the bookstore. Years went past and I was well into meditation and tarot readings, feng shui,  energetic healing, rituals and crystals.

I was only 26 and I had a flourishing career in finance, a good position in the coporate ladder. I achieved great things, academic and career wise. However, I struggled with my personal life, I guess something got to give and I didn’t know balance back then.

My relationships were not productive, not only the romantic ones.

My interactions with family and other people were bad. I know now that was due to a misalignment between my goals and my actions.

My words were creating my reality

In the romance department, I had the fear of being hurt and was going from a destructive relationships to another, really destroying any opportunity of a long term commitment. I was all over the shop.

One day I realised that I needed help.

Finding a therapist

Sometimes the first person you go to is not the person who will help you. Finding a good therapist is so important:

• you need to get along with him/her,
• feel comfortable and
• trust she/he can help you.

The first therapist I saw was by recommendation. He taught me relaxation techniques.  Thinking that my  emotional problems were due to stress and maybe they were. But going straight to relaxation techniques was like putting a bandage on a broken bone.  I needed deeper healing.

Don’t ask me to light candles and relax when I’m about to burst into flames myself.

We were not the right fit.

This applies to everything in your life, a job, a person you hire, a romantic partner. Neither off you are good or bad, just not the right fit.

I found my next therapist on an online directory. She was fantastic and together we worked on the underlying issues that were causing the problem. She made me aware of the language I was using to and how it influence my behaviour, made me realised that my actions, my words and my goals were not aligned.  

I needed to be congruent, align my actions, my words and my thoughts.

Someone I love said that therapy is for the weak, that I don’t needed it and my therapist was only pocketing my money and not healing me.

Why did I listen? Again this person may have had bad experiences with therapists but again, is about finding the right fit. Needing a therapist doesn’t mean you are broken, you are not broken, you don’t need fixing, you are not weak you are perfect as you are, you just need someone to help organise the knots in your head.

The best athletes need a coach, why the best human being won’t need a coach?

I left therapy, I wasn’t completely healed but I was in a better place.

Discovering meditation

I underwent knee surgery and had to do rehabilitation to learn to walk again after several months of pain and not being able to walk properly. 

I had to go to a place that was getting renovated and the noise was unbearable. The only way I found to block the noise was meditating. I started very slowly, focusing on the imaginary dot between my eyes, focusing all my attention in that dot, letting all my thoughts pass by until I couldn’t hear any more outside or inside noise.  

I remember one time one of the nurses apologised for the noise, “how annoying it was” and how other patients were complaining as well. I said, what noise? It took me few weeks to get to that level, but I practiced, and practiced and practiced.

The Secret (Film) and its influence in my life

At the time, the movie The Secret came out. I bought the book and then watched the movie. I tried all the tricks of the book and movie. 

It made me realised that you craft your own reality. I started doing vision boards. 

I started manifesting, I started getting the same spot in the carpark all the time, getting a spot on a busy carpark, getting checks in the mail. It was pretty cool!

My mum recently mentioned that she remembers all the things I said I wanted for my life and that is how live my life today. 

I joined a meditation class, learned to read tarot, learned a bit about healing power of crystals, discovered The Passion Test. I’m now  a consultant so I can help other woman discover their passion and purpose. I’m so excited for this! Because it is an eye opening exercise that helps you discover your top passions. It has given me crystal clear on the direction of my life and what to focus on, it comes very handy in decision making time.

Thanks to therapy and all the above. I was enjoying mutually nurturing relationship with my family, friends and colleagues, I broke my destructive patterns in romantic relationships and found an awesome partner, I got the money to come to Australia and study an MBA that will further my career as an accountant and financial analyst. 

I was at a good level

But I stopped.

I went all the way down to rock bottom.

I surrounded myself with people that called all these practices crap.

I let them convince me these practices don’t work, and the worst part was: I listened to them!

I gave them the power to convince me that it doesn’t exist, that doesn’t work, and they ridiculed me for believing on it.

I was ashamed, felt stupid and stop all my practices.

I left my morning meditation for prosperity, my gratitude practice, journalling, my crystals, my tarot. Because “all are product of fantasy”,  “You are so third world country thinking these things work”, “All this law of attraction is just marketing b/s taking people’s money”

Depression, Anxiety, Panic Attacks

After 3 years, I ended up depressed, with anxiety and having panic attacks. Not able to enjoy life. The worst part is that I couldn’t see the way out. I was losing hope. I was so deep in a rut, no seeing the way out of it, in a dead end job. 

I think I seriously lived the same day over and over again. 

Self-confidence and self-love were out the window. I was so vulnerable that I was subject of work bullying. 

I’m glad I went to my GP because of my constant headaches and low energy. She recommended me to see a therapist. The bullying incident was the trigger.

Claiming my power back

With the help of a life coach who thought me mindfulness techniques I learned to manage the panic attacks and anxiety. I found a good job that helped me move forward with my career, with nicer people.  I stop seeing the people who were putting me down and surrounded myself with more like minded ones. Still no meditation, gratitude or woo woo practices but mindfulness. I started building my toolkit and gaining confidence in myself.

Fast forward to August 2017, I opened an email. One of the ones  of my old mentors that I didn’t unsubscribed from.

I’m glad I did. Thanks to that email I re discovered the power of the mind and all the practices I forgot about.

I was sceptical but since some of the methods started to work for me again, I decided to give it a go.

I realised that believing that all those practices don’t work, was acting as self-fulling prophecy, nothing worked and attracted all the misery I was in.

Those are beliefs too, but beliefs that were not serving me.

I completely disregarded my inner voice and trusted everyone else but myself. I put on at least 10 kg trying to shut up that inner voice with rubbish food, hello emotional eating!

I re discovered the Passion Test, mindset work, gratitude and how limiting beliefs work. I remembered all the techniques that worked, how it worked, and built from there.

It is NOT psychobabble

I actually found the bridge between our brain wiring, neurological science and all the woo stuff.

Like for example I don’t believe of the power of rituals as for the ritual itself but because in the ritual you set the intention, you truly believe that is going to work, that is why you go to the effort of doing the ritual and you have no doubts that what the results you are after are going to materialise. If for some reason it doesn’t work (or fast enough) you repeat the ritual until what you ask for becomes real.  You don’t lose focus, commitment or faith.

The law of attraction respond to the Reticular Activation System or RAS.

If I say to you, think of the colour blue and you start thinking on the colour blue, you look around and all the things that are blue will stand out. So when you put a thought, a goal, you’ll be automatically attracted to follow the lead or initiative that will get you closer to your goal. Your brain does the work.  The same applies to tarot or oracle cards, you vibrational energy will attract you to the things that can deliver you the message you are after, the same way I took to random bottles of nail polish in the nail salon and they deliver the answer I was looking for.

Why Wellfulness?

Wellfulness is the combination of the words wellness and mindfulness. Wellness trough mindfulness and it was how I define happiness.

The word “happy” gave me anxiety  (not anymore) and  the song “Happy” by Pharrel  used to trigger me. I have come a long way from there.

Defining Happiness as Wellfulness marks the turning point in my life when I discovered mindfulness and start recovering after touching rock bottom.

Wellfulness now offer a team of therapists that are aligned with my energy and ready to help you find what you are looking in your life. 

Why mindset?

Because it all starts in your mind. What you hear, your subconscious programming, what you choose to belief.

I’ve seen so many women struggling with mindset and limiting beliefs resulting in anxiety, not progressing in their relationships, career or businesses.  I can see that are the stories they are telling themselves what is holding them back and we can find what it is by just having a chat. Find a great alternative therapist in our directory and start changing the narrative.

I’ve been there and I want to share my experience and help them build their own mindset toolkit.

My mindset toolkit contains:

• Audio: music , meditation, hypnosis (personalised and general audios)
• Diffrent Techniques I’ve learnt (EFT, affirmations, journalling, etc) 
• Links to book a sessions with therapists

I read somewhere that once you reach certain level, you need to share it, you can’t just keep it for you any longer, otherwise it is useless unless you out of service of others. This is my intention with Welfulness, share with you everything that works for me, from when I started to where I am at now. It’s a constant evolution.

Why self-care?

Self-Care is instrumental. Mindset shifts takes time, patience and work. It is a way to show kindness and reward yourself. Boost your confidence.

Self Care comes in many shapes and forms.

First of all,  give yourself permission to eliminate the clutter from your life. Both emotional and physical clutter, free yourself from baggage, forgive, let go and move forward. Set healthy boundaries

Create a work and home environment that nourishes you and keep it that way. I love Marie Kondo’s approach of everything has a place, be grateful, throw away things that don’t bring you joy.  Another Marie Kondo teaching that I like is to not declutter for anyone else but yourself.  Don’t complain that your husband is the hoarder (or flatmate, or family member). Just start tidying up your own stuff, they will follow.

Same way you don’t fix anyone else’s life but yours, they will start changing too.

Taking care of your finances is another way of self-care, and please do not compare yourself with anyone else. Everyone is living its own experience.

So this self-care, Is it just one weekend off a year or booking a massage on your birthday? No, it’s an every day practice or at least once a week.

Do you feel self are is selfish? That you don’t deserve it? A weekend off is just enough?

Try this:

• Set up a self -care routine. List your options.
• Allocate a budget to it, either a massage, cleansing bath or nourishing face creams, a session with a therapist.
• Schedule time just for you.
• Grant yourself permission to walk away from people that puts you down, that you feel like you need to play down your achievements in order for them to be happy and not making them feel bad

Own your light, you deserve to be who you are.

Mindset & Self Care Facebook group.

Surround yourself with smart, self-aware people interested in two ways relationships were both parties feel inspired and growth. Where we can learn from each other and lift each other up.

This is why I’m committed to growing a community of likeminded women, Mindset & Self Care for the Superachiever Woman in Business.

Not long ago, Harvard released a study on happiness showing that the secret of happiness is relationships. Positive and nurturing relationships. The human brain thrives in positive environments as well. In positive environments, you feel creative,  you find solutions to problems, you are focused.

My goal in the Facebook group is to create a community with a positive environment, which encourages participants to share what is helping for them, their concerns, tips and techniques to help each other grow our souls and reach our goals.

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Are Seashells Bad Luck?

In Feng Shui, shells symbolise good fortune, but I was conditioned to see them as bad luck. My beliefs were controlling my perception, and here’s what I did to change that.

Seashells: Good Luck or Bad?

Seashells are good for Feng Shui, they represent protection and are believed to enhance travel luck and strengthen long-distance relationships.

One website cites: “Keeping seashells in a basket will bring much-needed luck in your life. For greater wealth: Decorate a water fountain with seashells. In Feng Shui, a flowing water fountain symbolises money flowing into the house. Adding seashells helps protect that money.” 

A limiting belief got in the way of my beloved Feng Shui practice

Although I follow Feng Shui practices closely at home and trust in their power to activate good energy, my own beliefs have proven to be even more powerful.

It wasn’t the Feng Shui principles themselves holding me back, but the limiting beliefs I had unknowingly carried with me. This realisation helped me understand the true power of mindset and how it shapes our reality, even when we try to create harmony in our environment.

Why Most Beliefs Are Formed in Childhood: Understanding the Roots of Your Mindset

As a child, I spent a lot of time with my grandfather, and he had a significant influence on my life, including his superstitions. He had a strong aversion to seashells, insisting that they were a bad luck.

His house was right in front of the beach, so you can imagine how many times my brothers and I brought shells home, only for him to make us throw them out. Each time, his actions reinforced the belief that shells were something to be avoided.

He probably had his reasons for thinking that seashells carried negative energy, but the specifics have since faded from my memory. However, this experience stuck with me, shaping my perception of seashells as something to avoid. It’s fascinating how such early beliefs can linger in our minds, often without us realising their impact on our lives.

Embedded in Our Subconscious: How Childhood Beliefs Shape Our Perceptions and Choices

I don’t often think about my experiences with seashells, but I find myself avoiding them altogether—whether it’s not bringing them home or steering clear of seashell decorations. It’s not a conscious decision; it’s more of an automatic reaction. I associate them with a bad feeling without actively thinking about it. For instance, if someone gifts me seashells, I quickly remember that they give me negative feelings, leading me to either dispose of them or politely decline the gift.

I had a memorable moment during a trip to Hawaii when the luau hosts were handing out seashell necklaces to the women and seed necklaces to the men. When it was my turn, I hesitated and asked if I could please, please have a seed necklace instead. I worried that I came off as crazy and ungrateful, but the thought of wearing a seashell around my neck felt overwhelmingly uncomfortable. That experience really highlighted how deeply rooted those childhood beliefs can be, influencing my choices even when I don’t fully understand why.

I was reminded of this one day of 2020, when my son came back from the beach with a pocket full of shells. Seeing him so excited, I couldn’t help but feel a mix of joy and anxiety. While he was thrilled to share his treasures with me, a small voice in the back of my mind echoed my grandfather’s warnings about shells being a bad luck.

It was a moment of realisation for me—how deeply ingrained those childhood beliefs were, despite my efforts to embrace a more open-minded perspective. I watched my son admire his collection, and it struck me how important it is to break free from those old superstitions and allow him to create his own beliefs. After all, these shells, once symbols of misfortune for me, were just beautiful reminders of nature for him.

“Mummy, I got you a surprise!”

 

Me seeing the shells:

My heart stopped for a moment when I saw those shells

Looking at them sparked all the fears associated with keeping shells at home; I could only think of all the bad things that might happen if I let them stay.

Thanks to years of inner work, I’ve developed the ability to identify where these fears come from. I’m not always able to transform or reframe those beliefs on my own, but at least I can recognise them.

I had buried the belief that shells are bad deep inside my subconscious mind. It’s not something I think about every day, but I knew that if I kept all the shells, I would be focusing on the negative and, in turn, attracting it.

As beliefs are formed in our childhood, they often remain present in our lives, even if we don’t think about them daily. The belief that shells are bad luck hasn’t significantly impacted my life, and out of all the beliefs I need to reconsider, this one might not be that important. Our experiences shape how we live, so it’s essential to pick and choose our battles.

Some beliefs can be harmful, while others can be useful. If a belief isn’t hurting you, stopping you from reaching your goals, or holding you back from being successful, then it’s okay to keep it and work on them later on.

I could potentially transform this belief using tools from my mindset transformation toolkit — (Join My Free ‘Build Your Mindset Toolkit Challenge’ and Discover Three Powerful Tools to Rewire Your Brain for Lasting Mindset Transformation!)

Additionally, I could find evidence that shells are actually good, rewriting my past to show my brain that it’s safe to keep them at home.

So, what did I do with the shells? I didn’t let the thought worry me. I thanked my son for being so thoughtful in collecting those shells for me and secretly disposed of them in the bin the next day. As of now, thirty days later, no one has asked about the shells yet.

2024 Update

Last year, we travelled to Fiji, and my husband gave me a heads-up: “Don’t be rude. Just accept the beautiful shell necklaces or any gifts the locals offer at the airport or hotel. You can do whatever you want with them the next day, but accept them graciously.”

So, I decided to reprogram my mind ahead of time. It might sound a bit silly, but even with small things like this, I could’ve attracted the very things I feared—just because I had connected shells with misfortune. It wasn’t the actual shells that had any power, though.i My brain, conditioned since childhood to think that way. But here’s the thing—I realised I had already changed that. We’re not stuck with our beliefs forever.

We see the world through filters—like glasses that shape how we perceive things and influence the actions that got us where we are today. But if you’re not satisfied with where you are, if you know there’s more to life, then it’s possible to make a shift.

It’s not your fault if you’ve been programmed to see things a certain way, but it is your responsibility to do something about it.

I accepted the shells, and now they’re displayed at home. They’re a beautiful reminder that you are in control of your destiny and your mind—and, of course, of the amazing trip we had in Fiji!