What Do You Wear to Receive Life-Changing News?

There are moments in life when time stands still. When a simple medical appointment becomes the before and after of your story. When your heart beats so loud you can hear it in your ears, and your mind desperately searches for something, anything, to focus on so you don’t collapse.

For me, that “thing” was my clothes.

The Paralysing Moment: When Medical Uncertainty Hits

That morning I had a paralysing thought. What should I wear? What do people usually wear to receive a diagnosis like this one? I wanted to wear something that made me feel good, comfortable enough.

I know it sounds silly, but focusing on something so mundane helped me cope with all the thoughts that were going through my head.

When you go through this experience, you’re confronted with different thoughts and feelings. Reality hits with every new medical test you go through.

The truth is you’ll never be ready for this, but you can work on yourself mentally so you feel stronger.

The First Signs: When a Blood Clot Led to an Unexpected Discovery

About a month before that day, after following up on the results of what had caused a blood clot that resulted in an urgent hospital admission, I was told that I had an unusual growth in my collarbone. It looked like it could be something serious. I needed to be referred to a specialist because that particular hospital doesn’t treat the “C” word, if you catch my drift.

That was my first reality check, and some doctors can be so cold! Just be aware of this – it’s not you, it’s them.

“So if you could wait outside please, until we call you again because we don’t do this kind of thing here and we’re not sure who can help you, we need to make a couple of calls.” Probably he didn’t say it that way, but that’s how I heard it.

I’d never felt as helpless as I felt then. I went home with instructions to call every week to follow up and see if a more experienced doctor picked up my case or not.

The weeks that followed were filled with so much uncertainty and unanswered questions.

Whatever it was, I wasn’t willing to let it define me.

Processing the Fear: How I Gave Myself Permission to Feel

I won’t lie – a lot of different feelings invaded me. I locked myself in my room and I started crying. I allowed myself to go through everything I was feeling: so much to do, what about my dreams and plans? What about my son (about 5 years old back then)? How would he grow up without a mum? It’s not fair!

I gave myself three hours to feel miserable and angry. After that, I had to come up with a plan to face everything that was put in front of me.

Whatever it was.

Finding Hope: The Healing Journey Begins

I booked a session with an energy healer. I figured that I needed to listen to my body. The conclusion was to replace the feeling of helplessness with hope, the uncertainty with trust.  (this is really what helped me through).

I got inspired.

I started reaching out to other people that I knew had gone through a similar situation. One of these women was someone very dear to me, whom I’d never had the chance to meet in person. She passed away before we could cross paths, but her memory and the amazingly strong-willed woman she was remains. Breast cancer took her, but not without a fight, and when her children were old enough to fend for themselves. Despite a very sombre diagnosis where the doctor only gave her a few years left, she fought it for 28 years before she transitioned.

I was told she repeated affirmations in front of the mirror, being kind to herself and reassuring herself of the strong woman she was, who could face any decision that would save her life. That she was stronger than any diagnosis.

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Reclaiming My Identity: I Am More Than My Diagnosis

I did the same and decided that I wouldn’t identify with any diagnosis, whatever it was. I am me, and what I’m going through doesn’t define me. It’s just circumstantial. My values and behaviours define me. I am me, I don’t like labels, I am not a certain kind of patient, with certain kinds of words or illness. I’m not ill, I have something that needs attention; the vessel of my soul needs attention and repair, that’s all.

Taking Control: Managing Medical Tests with Mental Strength

All the tests that followed were confronting. Since I had already processed and let my emotions flow, I had a plan of attack. I wanted to be in control of the things I could control: me and my emotions. I cut my hair short. It was falling anyway – not sure if it was because of the medicine, the amount of radiation I was putting my body through, or anything else – but cutting it short was the best decision.

People delivering the tests are so used and numbed to the words that I was asked a few times about where the failing part of my body was. In other times I would’ve reacted defensively, really badly, but I learned to be calm and in the present moment, responding always from a place of love and understanding.

Kind of weird. Was I finally growing up?

Finding Support: The Power of Not Going Through It Alone

When I walked into the specialist clinic, I felt supported. That whatever this was, I would find support. I didn’t have to do it alone at all, and I made a promise to myself that I wouldn’t feel defeated.

I focused on my breathing. Being “in the moment”. Right here, right now.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is always there to help me with anxiety. Brad Yates is one of my go favourites for this and even though I have developed my own EFT-inspired simplified method that works well with affirmations, I like his energy and programs. Here is the one for vibrant health, it is great to swap those feelings of helplessness with hope. Take me there>>>

In that appointment, the doctor said that results were inconclusive. More tests to follow.

Embracing Uncertainty: Living Fully Despite the Unknown

I read articles from Bruce Lipton’s website and listened to his advice in Youtube. People can recover from this. Science is amazing and I have the universe on my side.

But what if my time is really up? It isn’t really up to me, is it? I’m not in charge of those decisions. Even though I don’t want to go, I have so much to live for, but that’s something I can’t control. What I can control, on the other hand, is how I react to this.

Only one thing was certain

I was only sure of one thing. I wouldn’t let worry take control, and I had to make the most of my days. Enjoy life, be grateful for each day.

Always answering this question with a yes: “If today was my last day on Earth, would I be doing what I’m doing?”

The answer needs to always be yes, even if that day I was cleaning or doing laundry or working. I was sure that I was doing what I was supposed to be doing and loving life. Not scared or delaying decisions.

Mind-Body Connection: Healing Through Visualisation and Self-Care

I spoke to my body. I meditated with healing light. We are all in this together, no room for diseases. I visualised myself as healthy. I made a list of the things I needed to change and made a commitment to take better care of my body.

The Surgery Decision: Choosing Logic Over Fear

“We need to take your collarbone out.”

The doctor was surprised at how well I took it. For me, it was a no-brainer. I was already clear that I would surrender, that I would need to think with my head and not with my emotions.

My collarbone, unfortunately, was causing problems, and if I left it, it would’ve damaged a main nerve, a main vein, or crushed my lung.

It was an executive decision. If something is not working, you end it. We need to focus on the integrity and wellbeing of the majority.

I had to.

Facing Surgery: From Fear to Acceptance

It was going to be a risky surgery.

It was postponed a couple of times. I’m sure it was my energy – I didn’t want to go through with it once I learned all the risks. I was scared. What if I don’t make it?

I wanted to be with my son on his birthday.

Funny enough, the doctor scheduled the new date for surgery for the day after his birthday. I was ready then, for whatever the outcome. I was at peace and surrendered. It’s not up to me. I did everything I could do.

I just went through it and didn’t resist or question anything. I just kept a positive attitude.

I woke up.

Recovery and Reflection: The Lessons That Matter Most

No collarbone and my arm in a sling that I need to wear for the next six weeks.

I now focus on the lesson rather than the pain. My lesson is to stay in the present moment, to live and enjoy life a lot more, enjoy the sun on my face and the fresh air. You know, all the little things.

To deal with uncertainty, to make decisions regardless of the circumstances, to be practical rather than fearful, to keep cultivating inner peace because that will get you through anything.

What Really Matters: The Answer to My Original Question

So what do you wear to receive life-changing news?

The same clothes you always wear, because whatever the diagnosis is, the treatment, etc., those words won’t change anything – especially the way you decide to live your life.

If you want to wear something special, wear hope and trust.

Wishing you all the best.

With Love, Claudia

Have you ever wondered why some people are raving about cacao ceremonies ? As a Peruvian and a wellness enthusiast with an analytical background, I’ve dived deep into this ancient practice, and let me tell you – it’s not just another wellness trend. It’s a powerful tool for transformation that’s been used for centuries, and I’m here to break it down for you in a way that makes sense, even if you’re sceptical (trust me, I was too!).

The Ancient Wisdom Behind Ceremonial Cacao

Let’s start with a little history lesson, but don’t worry – I’ll keep it interesting! Ceremonial cacao isn’t your average chocolate bar from the supermarket. The ancient Peruvian civilisations knew something we’re only just rediscovering: cacao is medicine. They didn’t just grow it; they revered it, using traditional harvesting methods that preserved its sacred properties.

The difference between ceremonial cacao and commercial chocolate is like comparing a superfood smoothie to a sugary soft drink – they’re worlds apart!

Traditional ceremonial cacao is made from pure, unroasted cacao beans, usually sourced from small, sustainable farms in Peru. It’s typically prepared as a thick, bitter drink that’ll make your average dark chocolate taste like a sugar cookie. The key difference? The intention and preparation method, the ceremonial cacao, is prepared with purpose and reverence.

Why Ceremonial Cacao Could Be Your Next Wellness Game-Changer

Physical Benefits That Actually Make Sense

As someone who likes to verify everything, I can tell you that the physical benefits of ceremonial cacao are backed by more than just ancient wisdom:

1. Heart health boost: it’s not just spiritual heart-opening we’re talking about
2. Antioxidant powerhouse (way more than your regular dark chocolate)
3. Steady energy without the caffeine crash (yes, please!)
4. Mineral content that your body will thank you for

The Emotional and Spiritual Side (Even for Sceptics)

Now, I know what you’re thinking – here comes the woo-woo part. But stick with me! Even from an analytical perspective, the emotional benefits are fascinating:

• Mood enhancement (there’s actual science behind this!)
• Enhanced meditation – it’s like a shortcut to mindfulness
• Connection to inner wisdom (or as I like to call it, enhanced intuition)

Making It Work: Sourcing and Preparation

Let’s talk about how to make this ancient practice work in your modern life.

Choosing Quality Ceremonial Cacao

Just like you wouldn’t put low-grade fuel in a high-performance car, you need to be choosy about your cacao. Look for:

• Ethically sourced Peruvian cacao
• Pure paste or blocks (powder is okay, but not ideal)
• Fair trade certifications

Basic Preparation Method (That Anyone Can Master)

Here’s my simplified version that still honours the traditional practice:

1. Start with 1-2 tablespoons of ceremonial cacao. – If you are getting the cacao in a block, just put it in your NutriBullet (or similar) to break it into smaller bits and store it in an airtight container. You can also use a grater  to shred it into pieces that can melt easily. Remember: it should never be boiled.
2. Add hot (not boiling) water
3. Blend until frothy
4. Optional: add a touch of honey or maple syrup, cinnamon or a pinch of cayenne pepper.

Maybe just try a small amount first and see how your body responds... (I know I wish someone had told me this when I started!)

Creating Your Own Ceremony (No Experience Required)

You don’t need to be a shaman to create a meaningful cacao ceremony. Here’s how to start:

When Nothing Seems to Happen

So it’s been a couple of weeks, and you’re not feeling the magic? Don’t worry, we’ve all been there! 

“I did everything right! I bought a certified Peruvian cacao, I set intentions, I even played meditation music… but I’m not feeling anything special. Maybe this whole ceremonial cacao thing isn’t for me…”

Okay, Okay. Let’s Go Bit by Bit

First, remember that everyone’s journey is different. Maybe you’re:

– Expecting too much too soon

– Not giving yourself enough quiet time to notice subtle changes

– Holding onto scepticism that’s blocking your experience

Going All In

Let’s dig deeper. Ask yourself:

– Are you truly open to the experience?

– Do you have hidden resistance to self-care practices?

– Are you rushing through instead of being present?

Remove Obstacles

Sometimes, the biggest obstacle is our own mindset. Start simple:

1. Try different times of day, pick a moment that you feel you’ll be more receptive or not rushed.
2. Experiment with your dosage
3. Combine with practices you already enjoy (like yoga or journaling)

Everything that happens serves a purpose. Be patient and kind to yourself as you explore this ancient practice in your modern life.

Making It Part of Your Daily Wellness Routine

The real magic happens when you stop treating ceremonial cacao as something exotic and start integrating it into your daily life. Here’s how:

1. Morning ritual: Replace your coffee with cacao once or twice a week
2. Pre-workout boost: Small dose before yoga or exercise
3. Mindful moments: Use it to enhance your meditation practice

Remember, you’re not just drinking chocolate – you’re participating in a tradition that’s thousands of years old. How amazing is that?

Your Next Steps

Ready to start your ceremonial cacao journey? Here’s what to do:

1. Source high-quality cacao
2. Start with a small amount
3. Keep a journal of your experiences

The first step is knowing exactly what you want and living in alignment. Whether you’re seeking more clarity, creativity, or connection, ceremonial cacao might just be the tool you’ve been looking for.

Your cacao journey is waiting! Get your Ceremonial Cacao delivered to Australia (local postage rates) and Internationally from my favourite supplier.

Self-care to raise your vibration

Does this sound familiar? You’re feling stressed, mercury is in retrograde, the full moon is doing it’s thing and making you feel a little troppo. Nothing seems to be working well. Life is overwhelming. It’s not just one thing. It’s everything!!! I know this oh too well. It’s time to practice my self-care tip to raise your vibration.

Spirituality speaking, your vibration refers to your energetic state. Holistically including your thoughts, beliefs, your physical health and emotions. All these factors contribute to the integrity of your energy field.

When any one of these elements are not at optimal levels, your vibration will be lower and you’ll need to do some work to help lift you back up.

This is not all woo woo talk. This has to do with our fight or flight response to a perceived threat. When you feel stressed or threatened by an external source, that part of your brain gets activated and releases stress hormones that allow you to deal with the problem, either fighting that wild tiger off or heading outta there real quick.

This can be handy when there is a real threat, but not when the threat is created by our thoughts or perceptions of reality and stays with you for longer stretches of time. It takes its toll. So you have to take steps to switch your flight or flight off.

 

What to do to turn things around and raise your vibration

When I start feeling  “heavy”, like I’m carrying too many worries, negative thoughts, my interactions with people are starting to be less productive. Life feels overwhelming and it all just seems a bit too much.

I know it is time to reset. Cleanse and raise my vibration. I turn things around by enjoying some downtime in a beautiful warm bath.

I prefer to do this early in the morning, on a Sunday  at 6 AM, when everyone at home is still, and I know I don’t have to rush to be anywhere.

 

My tips:

1. Fill the bath with warm water,  as hot you can, with enough water to be comfortable. Sprinkle a serving of Bath mix and drops of essential oils of your choice.

1. Be sure not to take a shower after the bath so the essential oils can do their work.

1. Repeat positive affirmations while in there, and practice mindfulness. Thoughts are just thoughts, just let them be, don’t push them away, let them go.

 

Here’s my luxurious recipe:

Salt bath with essential oils! (4 servings)

Ingredients

• 1 cup Epsom salt
• 1 cup pink Himalayan salt
• 1/2 cup baking soda
• 20 drops essential oils

Instructions

1. Combine salts and soda in a glass jar.
2. Stir in desired essential oils.
3. Store in cool, dark place.

It’s important to use only quality, high-grade essential oils. Be careful with cheap essentials oils as they can be either aromatic oils or synthetic oils, reducing the effectiveness of the bath. They still smell good, but they may be an irritant to the skin. You won’t achieve the same results, as plant extracts found in quality essential oils have healing properties.

The safest essential oil to use is Lavender

 

Relief of PMS symptoms

Coincidentally, I do this ritual every full moon. It may or may not be coinciding with PMS symptoms, but it is really therapeutic to alleviate these symptoms and nourish our bodies around that time of the month too.

In this fast-paced life, when we play so many roles and have to be and do ALL of ‘the things’, it’s so important to recognise when you’re needing to take some time out for you and replenish yourself.

Let’s face it, these things don’t come passively. We have to take time to lift ourselves up so we can achieve our goals and be there for those close to us.

If you’d like to experience my recommended quality oil blends, you can have a browse here. 

Note: You should always use essential oils with caution if you are pregnant, be sure to consult a professional. I recommend steering clear of all oils except lavender during pregnancy and always read the labels for contraindication. There are essential oils that are photosensitive, like Bergamot (I love the smell!!) , it’s recommended that you don’t have exposure to excessive sunlight for up to 12 hours if applied on the skin.